But suppose the marriage a goal one, made 'With purest love?Then what difficulties are there, that so many unions which start in the good way fall so soon and sadly into failure and woe? Some say that making acquaintance is one of the chief dangers. They avert that it is perilous to become well known one to the other. But getting known has two sides to it. One of the sides is neatly put in 'The Remarkable Rocket', one of Oscar Wilde's charming little stories, The Rocket has-been charged with affectation by; some other discontented firework. "'You are the rudest person I ever saw', said the Rocket, ‘and you cannot understand my friendship for the prince'. 'Why, you don't 'even know him, growled the Roman Candle. I never said I knew him', answered the Rocket, 'I dare say that if I knew him I should not be his friend at all. It is a very dangerous thing to know one's friends. 'But',on the other hand, there is the familiar but good anecdote told of Charles Lamb'I Bate that man', exclaimed Lamb, 'Why', said a bystander, 'do you know him?' 'No, indeed', answered Lamb, 'if I knew him I would not hate him'". These two views balance with an advantage on the amiable side, Do little foibles come out? So do unsuspected graces. Are great faults uncovered? So are heroic virtues. No, on the whole, becoming known is not the difficulty in marriage. There is no dragon, griffin, kraken or other monster in the way, nor even a household imp with tricks and plagues.